by dpaul | Nov 18, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
Carmen The opera Carmen shows another example of how the personality of the lover can change and expand through the lover’s identification with the beloved. The setting is in Seville Spain in the 1850’s outside a cigarette factory. It was so hot in Seville that...
by dpaul | Nov 14, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
Self validation and joint narratives The lovers validate the uniqueness and worth in mutual love. There is a chance for the lovers to be fully known in love, accepted without judgment, and loved despite all shortcomings. One desires to know and be known by the...
by dpaul | Nov 11, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
THE POTENTIAL FOR REALIZED LOVE TO CHANGE A LIFE Most often romantic love changes the lover for the good. Debunkers of love focus on the lover’s idealization of the beloved and subsequent disillusionment, and elaborate on the dailiness of life together. However, not...
by dpaul | Nov 7, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
I would like to make a small digression at this point. Psychoanalytic theory posits that many human beings have to resolve what is called an Oedipal conflict as part of normal development. This theory is based on observations derived from working with patients in...
by dpaul | Oct 10, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
Idealization The experience of falling in love is in direct response to special qualities of the beloved. By insisting that it is this unique man or this unique woman, the lover rejects any notion that individuals are interchangeable. In this way, love becomes a...
by dpaul | Oct 10, 2013 | blog, Uncategorized
Love Realized The idyllic phase Romantic love needs to be distinguished from carnal love, affectionate bonding and self aggrandizing love. What distinguishes romantic love is its intensity, the strong mutual identifications the lovers feel, and their longing for...
