Protect yourself from being hurt #1

Carmen The opera Carmen shows another example of  how the personality of the lover can change and expand through the lover’s  identification with the beloved. The setting is in Seville Spain in the 1850’s outside a cigarette factory. It was so hot in Seville that...

Romantic love can change a life #2

Self validation and joint narratives The lovers validate the uniqueness and worth in mutual love. There is a chance for the lovers to be fully known in love, accepted without judgment, and loved despite all shortcomings. One desires to know and be known by the...

Romantic love can change a life #1

THE POTENTIAL FOR REALIZED LOVE TO CHANGE A LIFE Most often romantic love changes the lover for the good. Debunkers of love focus on the lover’s idealization of the beloved and subsequent disillusionment, and elaborate on the dailiness of life together. However, not...

Realized Love #4

I would like to make a small digression at this point. Psychoanalytic theory posits that many human beings have to resolve what is called an Oedipal conflict as part of normal development. This theory is based on observations derived from working with patients in...

Realized Love #1

THE EXPERIENCE OF MUTUAL LOVE When love is mutual, for a moment or a life time, it has certain characteristics. When love is mutual the lovers often feel their love is unique; the feeling of uniqueness is one of its defining characteristic. Regardless of its duration,...