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Dr. Daniel Paul is a Psychoanalyst (a Fellow of the International Psychoanalytical Association) and a Clinical Psychologist. He has a current interest in the psychoanalysis of romantic love. “Barriers to loving” and “How romantic love can change a life” are two current interests. He has developed workshops and presented papers on both of these subjects. You can hear a radio interview of him by Dr. Michelle Cohen by clicking on the link below. The interview focuses on a University of California, Los Angeles Extension course he gives on “Barriers to loving”. Click on this link to hear the radio interview from the program “On the couch”.
Dr. Paul also presents workshops on “How romantic love can change a life.” You can hear some of his thoughts in a paper that he presented to the Wagner Society of Southern California by clicking on the following link.
The title of his paper is “Wagner: Themes of romantic love, redemption and incest.”You can purchase a CD or download an MP3 file for a nominal fee. Although this presentation focuses narrowly on Wagner, his workshop and papers treat the subject more broadly.
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Barriers To Loving Therapy In Beverly Hills
There are those who seek safety in love and a haven from the world. This is an error. Love is inherently unstable and thus no haven at all. The second idea about safety is that it is safe to remain who we are and avoid the risks attendant upon the adventure of becoming through love the person we have not yet discovered. The danger of suffering in love is nothing compared to the danger of discovering that one has never lived, that one has never taken the risk of feeling wholly vulnerable and alive. Suffering is less an agony than to live without affect. Suffering is a reminder that we are still alive. Affectlessness is a reminder that we are failing to live. Our secret fear is that nothing can move us. Sometimes it is necessary to look at our internal barriers to loving, if we are to be freer to love.
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People who are threatened by intimacy and sexuality tend to be caricatures of masculinity and femininity: Don Juan’s or Femme Fatales. They are unable to consummate an intimate relationship and flee into promiscuity. They, also, retreat into being little boys or little girls in the face of an adult sexual relationship, because they are too guilty to consummate the relationship. This guilt arises from a childhood over involvement with a seductive father and a competitive mother in the case of the girl. The reverse is true of the boy. Intimacy is avoided by choosing unavailable people or by pushing people away when they become too close. Therapy can help them become aware of the origins of their barriers to loving and thus enable them to be freer to love. Click for more about Feeling threatened by intimacy, intimacy fear, and being threatened by sexuality
The fear of being controlled can be a barrier to loving. People who fear being controlled are often stingy with his/her emotions, because he/she fears being openly loving makes him/her vulnerable to being controlled. A fear of being controlled limits the person’s ability to commit to the relationship. Limited commitment has the potential to sabotage the success of the relationship from the beginning. A ledger is kept about what is given because the person fears not getting a return on his/her investment. Click for more about Feeling threatened by a fear of being controlled
The person derives joy from suffering. He/she chooses an abusive partner or provokes a kind partner. Erotic excitement derives from begging the partner for forgiveness. Drama is necessary, since kind lovers are felt as boring. This pattern has its origins in a mother who was cruel to the child. The child had to repress his/her anger at the mother for her cruelty, because mother’s love was vitally needed. Abuse came to be associated with love. This pattern is displaced on to the beloved. Click for more about Joy in suffering
People are afraid of making demands on the beloved for fear of destroying the relationship. The persons therefore does not express his/her anger at unspoken demands not being gratified. Anger is turned against the self and he/she becomes chronically depressed. Fear of making demands regarded as insatiable arose in childhood when his/her mother withdrew in the face of emotional demands. Depressed personalities fear that his/her demands are too much and cannot see mother’s inability to give. Click for more about Fear of making insatiable demands interferes with loving
The person is physically present but emotionally withdrawn from involvement with people and life. Life has ceased to be meaningful as a result of this. Childhood deprivation causes the person to fear that his/her very need for love is too much and is destructive to relationships. This fear of loving leads him/her to withdraw deep inside himself/herself. Click for more about The compulsion to withdraw interferes with being emotionally present
The compulsive search for the perfect other arises in people who cannot tolerate the beloved having problems. Flaws in the beloved cause the person to trash the relationship and pursue a new quest for a perfect beloved. The person becomes so profoundly disillusioned with a flawed beloved, that he/she is unable to work on problems and resolve them. The compulsive search for the perfect other
The excessively self involved person is unable to love because he/she doesn’t see the other. Self love precludes an ability to see and have empathy for other people. Others exist as shadow people. Early disappointments of his/her needs to be loved leads him/her to depreciate what other have to give him/her. Protection against dependency is achieved in this way. Therapy focuses on the need to devalue the other, facilitates the other “coming alive” and removes a barrier to loving. The excessively self involved personcannot love because there is no other
Dr. Paul offers professional training as a psychoanalyst in Los Angeles & Beverly Hills that makes him significantly superior to the average psychologist or psychiatrist who doesn’t have this advanced training. He is equipped to make deep changes in a person’s personality if needed. His ability to listen deeply enables him to focus on the core underlying conflict causing a person’s distress. Greater awareness of this conflict relieves distress. He is a Training and Supervising Analyst at LAISPS. He analyzes people who want to become psychoanalysts themselves and supervises their work. He, also, teaches Post-Doctoral students at the Wright Institute of Los Angeles where he trains them in working with more troubled people (i.e. The Borderline Personality). This is one of his specialties. He received his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of California, Los Angeles and his B.A. in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. He is a licensed Psychologist in California & Los Angeles (PSY 3755). He has been in practice for 40+ years. In addition to his current interest in the Psychoanalysis of Romantic Love, he has published, presented papers and has an expertise in the following areas.
- Depression Therapy
- Adult victims of childhood sexual abuse Therapy
- Borderline Personality Therapy
- Dissociative Identity Disorders Therapy
- Eating Disorders Therapy
Los Angeles Psychologist, Dr. Daniel Paul
People come to Dr. Daniel Paul for relationship help from all across Southern California. If you’re looking for a caring relationship expert to help you through a troubled time in your life, call Dr. Daniel Paul for a consultation. He knows how relationship dynamics, past experiences, and trauma can affect your day-to-day interactions with those you care about, creating Barriers to Loving. He can help you identify issues and find the solutions you’ve been looking for, and if you just need a compassionate ear, Dr. Daniel Paul will listen to your story.
Dr. Daniel Paul is a preferred psychologist in Los Angeles. His Beverly Hills office is conveniently located for L.A. area residents. Currently, Dr. Paul offers help for the following areas:
- Couples counseling (Los Angeles and Beverly Hills)
- Depression treatments
- General counseling
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- Adult victims of childhood sexual abuse
- Couples therapy (Los Angeles and Beverly Hills)
- Marriage counseling (Los Angeles and Beverly Hills)
- Relationship counseling
- Borderline personality
- Gay couples therapy
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- Psychotherapy (Los Angeles and Beverly Hills)
- Gay couple counseling
- Dissociative Identity Disorders
- Psychoanalysis (Los Angeles and Beverly Hills)
- Lesbian couple counseling
- Eating disorders
- Gay marriage counseling
Your story is important. Your relationships matter. Dr. Daniel Paul can help.
Call today, at 310-271-1858, for professional Los Angeles Psychoanalysis from a licensed Los Angeles Psychologist.
Los Angeles Psychoanalysis: Barriers to Loving
If you need a professional psychotherapist, Los Angeles and Beverly Hills residents turn to the caring expertise of Dr. Daniel Paul. Among all psychologists in Los Angeles, Dr. Paul stands apart as the premier expert on Barriers to Loving.